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You've planned the wedding.
Who's planning the marriage?

Ten conversations to have before you say “I do” — the ones that matter more than the napkins. Ten topics, thirty starter questions, zero therapy-speak.

Prefer the whole thing? The complete workbook — ten guided date nights, a reveal ritual, and the Manual you build and sign together — launches this autumn.

The Marriage Operating Manual guide resting on a linen table beside a coffee and a pastry 10 topics · 30 questions
The shortlist

The ten conversations, at a glance

Three honest questions each. No jargon, no worksheets that feel like a tax return — just the talks worth having while it's still easy to have them.

  • 01The Big Picture
  • 02How We Talk
  • 03The Money Date
  • 04Kids, or Not
  • 05How We Fight
  • 06Who Does What
  • 07Closeness
  • 08Us Against the Rain
  • 09The Wedding Itself
  • 10How We'll Change
Why bother

Everyone plans the day. Almost no one plans the decades.

You'll happily spend a Saturday debating chair covers. This is the guide for the conversations that actually decide how the next fifty years feel.

Written like a friend

The tone of your smartest married mate over a bottle of wine — warm, a bit dry, never clinical. You'll actually want to talk.

Nothing to install

No app, no course, no login. One email, one PDF, thirty questions. Read it on the sofa tonight.

A real head start

A free preview of the full workbook we're building. Find the topic you've both been quietly avoiding — before it finds you.

The free download

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The guide is the trailer. The workbook is the film.

“The 10 Conversations” is a free preview. The full Marriage Operating Manual turns those ten talks into ten guided date nights, adds a private-answer reveal ritual, and ends with a keepsake manual you build and sign together. Paperback, hardback and digital — this autumn.

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